Decided to go gay

[Footstep40]

It’s not all midnight bjs, surprise morning sex and showers together. Sure some of those things happen. Me being the little spoon, many a morning I have woken up to something hard pressed against me, I have been the human alarm clock for my fianc? many times, and we do enjoy our baths in my big soaker tub.
Like any relationship, there are squabbles over how to load the dishwasher correctly, how to fold towels, why is it hard to take your socks and put them in the hamper, I hate this show, slow down on the corners, (his name is Darryl, so I love that one), I’m going to bed, you coming up hun? Naw baby, I’m going to finish this drink and my show. 2 hours later, I come downstairs in the nude, he’s poured a few more and is passed out on the couch. Did you want to come upstairs and fuck me? Ohhh shit sorry. Like any relationship it takes work.

[elian2]

Quite possibly the best line I ever heard from a therapist - "If you love the dishwasher so much, why don't you marry it instead?"

I've TRIED to tell evangelicals that gay folks who have known each other long enough to want to get married do the same thing OTHER married couples do in bed, they fall asleep.

[Footstep40]

lol!! I guess in my case, he is marrying the dishwasher…me!

[rukiddingme]

Like many here, I have never been attracted to guys that I meet and have never thought of myself as gay. All of my friends are straight (maybe!), at least I have never had any sexual conversations with them other than girls. When I am out I still find myself gawking at beautiful women. When I see a hot girl on tv I Google images of her. But I have always appreciated pictures of nude guys with athletic bodies and nice cocks.
Yet when I find myself getting aroused I almost certainly fantasize of gay sex. 90% of my viewing is gay porn, guys making out, rubbing each other, sucking, and building toward intimate sex. If I view women, it will be in a bisexual setting with guys together.
I have progressed from 2 to 5.

[NakedFun38]

Does anyone else see that there is a trend that after men turn 50 they become more attracted to men than women? Is there any science behind this?

[biguycancun]

Does anyone else see that there is a trend that after men turn 50 they become more attracted to men than women? Is there any science behind this?

Just my opinion but it would seem that many women lose interest in sex with the onset of menopause whereas men continue to desire sex well into their senior years even as their bodies eventually weaken. And there's far less emotional and societal bullshit to navigate in establishing a male-to-male relationship. And sometimes that relationship is quite brief and in many cases, no strings attached. As I said, just my opinion.

[KDaddy23]

Does anyone else see that there is a trend that after men turn 50 they become more attracted to men than women? Is there any science behind this?

I would say that, from what I've personally seen and experienced, that men between the ages of 45 and 50 don't become more attracted to men as they do become more attracted to having sex with a man. There appears to be some social science associated with this, i.e., women not having sex for a lot of reasons including menopause but for as long as I've been bisexual (60 years), I have never figured out what "logic" takes place when a guy who's been heterosexual for 45/50 years decides that today is a good day to suck a cock. I have said that it's not a secret that there are men who have sex with men and some of them aren't gay - or so it's being said, right? Something tells a guy, "Hey, you aren't getting any from her, you don't want to cheat on her with another woman but there are guys who'll suck your dick without a lot of hassle and if you were of a mind to give it a try, hmm, really - how bad can it be when there are a gazillion men who suck cock?"

And, somehow, it all makes perfectly good sense. When I was in my mid-40s, I got with a guy in his 60s who wanted to experience man-sex for the first time and when I asked him why, he said, "I don't really know - it just sounds like the right thing to do." Later, he asked me if I minded if he told his closest friends about his cock-sucking experience and I said that he could. He said, "That's great because they would benefit from having their cock sucked and now that I know about it, I'm going to give them all blowjobs!"

I don't know if he did or not but the encounter left me wondering - again - why a man gets into his later years of life and decides to have sex with a man after spending the majority of his life being against such a thing...

[NakedFun38]

I would say that, from what I've personally seen and experienced, that men between the ages of 45 and 50 don't become more attracted to men as they do become more attracted to having sex with a man. There appears to be some social science associated with this, i.e., women not having sex for a lot of reasons including menopause but for as long as I've been bisexual (60 years), I have never figured out what "logic" takes place when a guy who's been heterosexual for 45/50 years decides that today is a good day to suck a cock. I have said that it's not a secret that there are men who have sex with men and some of them aren't gay - or so it's being said, right? Something tells a guy, "Hey, you aren't getting any from her, you don't want to cheat on her with another woman but there are guys who'll suck your dick without a lot of hassle and if you were of a mind to give it a try, hmm, really - how bad can it be when there are a gazillion men who suck cock?"

And, somehow, it all makes perfectly good sense. When I was in my mid-40s, I got with a guy in his 60s who wanted to experience man-sex for the first time and when I asked him why, he said, "I don't really know - it just sounds like the right thing to do." Later, he asked me if I minded if he told his closest friends about his cock-sucking experience and I said that he could. He said, "That's great because they would benefit from having their cock sucked and now that I know about it, I'm going to give them all blowjobs!"

I don't know if he did or not but the encounter left me wondering - again - why a man gets into his later years of life and decides to have sex with a man after spending the majority of his life being against such a thing...

kdaady23, thank you. It’s more precise to state it the way you did. Not attracted to men but attracted to sex with men. I’ve never found men attractive but sex with men is attractive. I’ve noticed my attraction to sex with men grow increasingly over the years, ever since my early teens when I had a play buddy. I’ve never bought into the statement “ my wife doesn’t have sex so now I have sex with men”. That just doesn’t make sense. There must be some sort of physiological change that happens. Perhaps it’s primal to reduce competition for younger male generations in reproduction?

[SilkyHoseLover]

KDdaddy23, thank you. It?s more precise to state it the way you did. Not attracted to men but attracted to sex with men.

Yeah, don't know how many posts I've read here and on other sites beginning with: "I'm not attracted to men, but..." I've even written that a time or two, myself.

But I kinda take it one step further. I'm most interested in sex with a man when there's at least some degree of femininity in the mix, especially if it's me in silky lingerie or another CD like myself. I'm not enthusiastic about us both being just 'two naked guys' playing together.