I am in my sixties, live in Dallas TX and have had Bi feelings for a pretty long time. That I have bottomed only twice is due to many reasons- constant travel for work my initial hesitation when sex with a guy was much easier, in the days of Craigslist.
On the home front, I have been married for thirty years , to a wonderful woman. She?s kind, caring and soft spoken. However we have not had sex for over 10 years. At first I had ED, but sex was still great. Then then the pills stoppped working and I found Trimix which can give me a hard on in minutes.
I wish that changed everything, but it did not because the wife had menopause, and steadily lost interest in sex. I discussed this a couple of times, but she said she just get the urge, interest and mood to have sex. I tried to fondle her, but that did nothing. For her sex has zero priority.
Recently on a couple of occasions I told her of posts I read on Facebook posted anonymously. The men in these posts said that they had no sex in 10 years, nothing was working and so they were thinking of divorce. To this, my wife remarked that if sex was so important, they should look for that outside. I was kind of shocked , but did not have the courage to ask if I could do that.
So here is the confusion, and dilemma.. is this a message that I could do the same? Even so I could tell her that I was interested in men because it is considered taboo ( I am from India, where things have not changed much). On one hand I can?t get at home and then I?d love to have sex with men.
So, what should I do? I know that there are some great folks here, so just looking for perspectives. Thanks!!
