BiSexual Couple Dealing With Jealousy

[ganix22]

The title says most of my question but I wanted to know if there are any other Bi Couples out there dealing with jealously and how they're dealing with it. I know I shouldn't feel jealous when he goes out with a man because there are times I want to go out with a woman....but I do. And usually the jealously manifests in anger...any suggestions?:flag1::bipride:

[Long Duck Dong]

yeah lots of suggestions lol

1) be jealous, it shows how much you care about him, it shows how much he means to you, and how you find it hard to share the man you love....

2) be angry, make up sex is good, it clears out a lot of pent up emotions....

3) do not be nasty, be jealous and angry, not nasty, your goal is to show him that you find it hard to share such a wonderful man, not to alienate him with your words.....

4) take heart in the fact that your man may lay in the arms of another for a short time, but he lays in your arms, heart and bed for a lot longer.....

5) you are human, feeling jealous and envious is normal.... don't deny who and what you are, but do not let it consume you either, your partner may have the same jealous feelings about you with another woman, but doesn't express it the same way

6) try meeting with your partners together, that way you can see the pleasure you both get from others, but the love you have for each other....

and lastly, its better to be a jealous partner than a single woman.....

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Yeah! What Duck said. :} But dont let anger and jealousy control you, Baby. Jealousy and anger can lead to spite and resentment, and those are diasterous for a marriage or partnership. Ask your honey if you can meet with his playmate and who knows....threesomes are wonderful things, Girlfriend. ;)
Best of luck.
Cat

[by~his~side]

Ganix,
Jealousy is NOT a barmometer for how much you love someone. If you are jealous and finding it hard to share him with others that's an indication that you are not emotionally accepting of his having sex outside your relationship.
It sounds like you and your hubs need to put all the emotions on the table and deal with them honestly.

Good Luck.
~D~

[csrakate]

I agree with by-his-side....doesn't sound like you're completely on board with the idea of him going outside of the marriage and if that is the case, the two of you need to talk. Jealousy is not healthy and can do nothing more than wreck the basis of trust in a marriage. As for the following comment...I find it way off base and totally not true. Why should anyone feel they are better off in a jealousy based relationship?


and lastly, its better to be a jealous partner than a single woman.....

[onewhocares]

Ganix,
Jealousy is NOT a barmometer for how much you love someone. If you are jealous and finding it hard to share him with others that's an indication that you are not emotionally accepting of his having sex outside your relationship.
It sounds like you and your hubs need to put all the emotions on the table and deal with them honestly.

Good Luck.
~D~

I agree with BHS...Jealousy is not good for any relationship. I can tell you from personal experiance that I have never been jealouse of my husbands lovers, but envious. It caused consternation and angst in the early years of sharing a man. I know from my husbands perspective times have been tough for him when we meet people my personality draws folks to me and less to him. But gaining self confidence and having lovers of his own helped that. I know for me I have been so lucky as I have had the pleasure to meet so many wonderful people who have become friends.

Belle

PS..Kates advice is on target.

[mikey3000]

And talk, talk, talk, then talk some more. Jealousy is a secondary emotion. You have to discover what fear you have that makes you feel jealous. Then you will be able to discuss it. For my wife, it was the fear of being left for a man. But once she realized that I won't leave her, but this is something that I truly need to feel complete, she is getting much better. And yes, she has met my BF and really likes him.

Good luck.

[ganix22]

Mikey3000: I know what I'm afraid of...its being left for someone else in general...past relationships have destroyed my self esteem. I was cheated on several times and I'm still not used to the fact that this really isn't a monogamous relationship.


As for the threesomes we've talked about it but I run into the same problem I'm not sure I'm ready to do that especially with someone new since we just moved. O.o I'm just a mess of trouble >.<