Easing Into Anal

[Newmexicanman]

I am wondering how many of the guys and women in this forum are okay with anal sex. I am also wondering how different people go about getting prepared for it.

As a younger guy (pre-AIDS) I enjoyed a relationship with a guy that included anal sex. Back then it was easy enough to get started and get it inside me without feeling like my entire body was going to split in half. Now, I can only take a very small penis, and with some discomfort. It is worth it though to get that "fucked" feeling. I tried recently with a guy who was farily well endowed, and it was not at all fun or pleasurable, and I was sore for more than a week.

So, any hints out there for a good and reasonably comfortable anal experience?

Secondly, I really used to get off on the feeling of sperm coming out of my ass after sex, is that something that a lot of people miss these days?

[JohnnyV]

Newmexican,

I've never been able to complete the sex act as a bottom, but I do have experience getting men and women to accept my own penis. I've found that breathing a lot works, and going slow. Sometimes the initial push inside may hurt but, it will hurt less afterwards once the whole thing is inside? So even though your instinct to avoid pain may get you to delay putting the whole thing inside, the first painful thrust can sometimes make later thrusts easier.

I've found that it's not good to go overboard on lube, especially the cheaper brand names that get glue-like when they dry. Yukk!

About oozing cum out of the ass, I'm sorry but I was born too late to cash in on pre-AIDs fun, and I've never done it. I have been enjoying watching that in pornos though!

J

[huneypot]

I was never into anal untill i met up with a male partner about 4 years ago and he loved it and i was open about trying it so off we went and the following was what happened...

We first went for the full penitration and i screamed the house down....so that was that.
Then i went about training myself.
I began with my partner using plenty of lubb and fingers which was great
Then we progressed slowly to more fingers etc.
In essence i trained my bum lol
But it worked, after a month or so, boy could i take it and bloody love it.
The other thing which helped for me is to only penetrate when highly arroused, highly, as this makes u more receptive i find.
well thats my :2cents:

[Newmexicanman]

Strangely, Huneypot, I used to cum like a cannon going off when my partner pushed it into me all the way. It was like a trigger for orgasm like no other. And there was no feeling in the world like cum in my underwear... Especially with crowds of people around who had no clue what I had just finished doing. A "secret" only I knew.

And I loved seeing the penetration too. Watching it going in and out of me... But when the guy came, that was it, that always blew me away... I always came a microsecond after him. Mind you, he was perfectly built for me. A great combination of size and shape and attitude.

[innaminka]

Being the bi half of my marriage, anal penetration isn't a real part of the time I have with a woman.
However, with my husband, its a part of our overall lovemaking. Like hunypot, its something that really only occurs (these days) when we're both (esp me) very hot. And although I've been a "naughty wife" at times, only one other guy has accessed my booty; its just too risky.
I find the actual penetration easy with experience - I just bear down and it pops open.
Yes, I have wonderful orgasms and my husband also loves the feeling of tighness and the visuals of being inside my bottom.

As for the after post orgasmic oozing experience - er, no thanks. :eek: Quick clean-ups here.

[OralBradley]

Once at a gay baths in PaloAlto, I was cruising the cubicles and entered one with the guy lying on his back so I though he wanted a blow job and entered. He told me that he was just resting and preferred to fuck my ass. I explained that I had had only bad experiences, but he countered that he would take lots of time to get me prepared and would stop at any time.
He started out by kissing an licking my nipples, which are very sensitive, and kissed and licked his way down to my cock and balls. He didn't take my cock in his mouth, but licked along the shaft and head. He placed a thumb against my anus and applied gentle pressure while he was licking my cock and balls.
After a few minutes of that, he started licking may asshole and trying to fuck it with his tongue. With my anus excited by his tongue and lubed up with spit, he gently inserted one finger slowly inside. Sometime alon the line he added some lube to his spit and fucked my ass with his finger for a while. One became two, became three, and I was really opened up and ready for his cock.
He lubed his cock and slowly inserted it into my ass by pussin in a bit and pausing several times. Unlike my previous "lovers," he had me on my back with my butt raised to receive him while I could also see him. Once he was full inserted he remained still for a bit to allow me to get used to the pressure of his cock while he stroked mine and tweeked my nipples.
At last he started to slowly withdraw his cock until he was almost out and the slowly reinserting it until his cock-hair was against my ass. Very soon, I was rising to meet his thrusts and our tempo increased until he was fucking me with some vigor.
He slowed down when he was close to coming and I could feel his shaft get larger inside me With this impetus, I was thrusting up onto his cock even more than he was thrusting into me. At the end, he made a few short, fast jabs when he came, and I shot my load up onto my chest and face.

[arana]

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[woolleygirl]

xxx
I Love anal Now. I took me along time to really get into it. But one day I just started enjoying the hell out of it. I get off more than I ever did the other way and my husband is really enjoying my new love. As for easing into it we always start slow till I used to it. We also use a lube like astroglide. :2cents:

Theresa

Life is short don't waste time :devil:

[Long Duck Dong]

lol ahhh anal... lol the lovelife of my butt

lol when i first started, a case of ram it in and go for broke......hence friction burns on my back lol

A lil trick i picked up was working the anus til it is ready to revive a penis...but more importantly... making the reciever fully relaxed.....if they are subconciously tense, it goes thru the whole body

my gf recently tried it ( by accident cos i was a lil too vigourous) and she enjoyed the feeling of being entered but the body reacted to it in a bad way
I told her that its like teaching ya body a new action... it takes a little time to teach the body that it is ok to accept anal and allow it to happen

now the main issue i strike with people ( i do sexual counselling ) is that in the bedroom they still tend to carry their society conditioning with them
and that is that sodomy is dirty....and the body unconciously tightens and tenses...and so sex becomes a torture more than a pleasure

[guycurious]

I personally have never had a penis in my ass (yet). I, however, have never had a problem with relaxing to accept objects.

I take great pleasure when my wife uses her fingers/toys to massage/enter my ass. I can't explain why I enjoy it, I just do. We have a strap-on that she has used a couple of times but always at my request. She never takes the initiative.....

But anyway, as far as the anal thing goes, people are built differently and some have no problem with it and others take a long time to relax enough to enjoy it. Some simply can't......

[smokey]

as a throughly gay aquaintance once suggested when questioned about anal sex...get throughly drunk first. :bigrin:

[jo69guy]

Preparation and lube are the keys. I enjoy anal with my partner immensly. As we are monogomous, and both ddf, we go bareback now. Would not do this without a steady, safe partner though. If feels good when he unloads inside me.

I have never had anyone huge in there, and don't want too! He is around 7.5" and that is plenty big enough for me! Plus, I prefer to be safe, so I stick to one safe partner. :2cents: :flag3: