I love my straight friend and I'm gonna tell him-help!?

[parkerbi]

He is the best, mentally and physically, and I can't stop loving him with all I've got. I think I'm going to die of hidden love.....

I LOVE HIM!!!!

We are the best friends we can be, and when he has a girlfriend, he can tell that I get really upset. He begs me to tell him what I think and feel when he tells me about them, but I refuse to. To stop him from asking me, I told him I would tell him everything during Christmas time this year. He just left right now after studying, giving me a kiss in the cheek as usual. This only heightens my passion.

But yeah...I promised to tell him everything, but I'm not sure how to tell him, im soo nervous. The thing is that even though I love him, I not really gay or bi cause i can't see myself loving some other guys, it's kind of weird when i think about it, but not with him. I like girls, and im gonna marry a woman when im older and all that stuff. I don't want him to think im gay cause im not, im just gay for him...i know you guys aren't gonna believe me......

But I love him with all my heart and this is going to be the most special moment in my life. I know he is going to understand me and not change our friendship cause we're best friends, but I need help on actually telling him...maybe i can say it so well that he allows me to kiss him...lol...omg..

im scared that he will still go out with girls after i know how i feel a

[elian]

Wow, you are clearly smitten with him - and sure I've been saying for years that I want to love someone for the whole person, not just what is between their legs so why WOULDN'T I believe that you are selectively loving this guy for the whole package? :)

The fact that he kisses you would seem to show that he is fairly open about showing love and affection - notice how I'm trying hard not to use gender/sex labels because in this case they just hurt people - of course it's the first thing people think of - our brains are wired that way.

Is he dating a girlfriend now?

Love comes in many forms - from banal lust to the platonic..on some level you may already both care for each other..delving into the subconscious isn't for the faint of heart..I guess it IS a part of how we learn about ourselves and others in the world - which seems to be the main reason we are here anyway.

That is the big risk we all take isn't it? - even straight people can get "shot down" by someone they love when the other person just doesn't feel that way in return.

I don't have any easy answer for you - but hopefully your relationship is strong enough that he won't be hurtful intentionally. If it really bothers you that much, and he is as caring as you say and secure in his own self-image hopefully he'll treat your feelings with respect anyway.

[Realist]

If I were in your shoes, I'd try not to obsess about it, I believe you are making it way too complicated. (I know how you feel, though, I will think a thing to death, if it's important to me, too)

He will either accept you and your desires, or hopefully let you down easily. Another thought; If he is bisexual, you may have to learn to share him with his feminine interests.

You cannot/should not, think you can love him enough to MAKE him love you the way you want him to, unless he wants that, too. The way I see it, the best you can do it be honest and clear about how you feel and accept his reply as best you can.

I wish you the best of luck and hopefully things will turn out in your favor.

[DiamondDog]

Are you being serious or are you just going to spam your site like usual?