New to this sensation so hello!

[rmorti]

Hi there, I've just signed up today to this sight as I feel getting to know people of the same emotions as me can only benefit me and hopefully get much better insight.

Just for an introduction, Im 20, From UK and your typical kind of geezer really, likes computer games, hits the gym and enjoys some ace movies.
Recently discovered this bisexual side to me since the end of december, i'm still noticing guys more at the moment because I feel its a new sensation that still needs to be worked into the system, but still loving the intimacy with my current ex g/f (we're going for the sex buddy kind of angle).
Pretty sure I dont want to be with a guy (at least not yet) and don't get turned on by the idea of being with one I just enjoy looking at their physiques really for the moment but as I said, sure its all new really.
Still its deffinetly an odd sensation to have, looking at men when I only ever used to envy builds I wanted (as I go to the gym myself).

Anyone care to share any storys of their bisexuality at all? paticular the ones who discovered it later in life, either because they were "gay/straight" before and then discovered they had the eye of the same/opposite sex?

Exscuse the " " around the labels, I prefer not to use them myself but for explanations it always helps to use those words.

Hope You are all doing well and love to hear from you all..

R

[Herbwoman39]

Welcome R! I'm glad you found our little home in cyberspace.

I just came to fully recognize my bisexual self 2 and a half years ago; two days before my 38th birthday. I'm going on 41 now. Before that time I was firmly convinced that I was straight. Matter of fact I used to say I was so straight I had problems turning corners. Cute, yes. Denial? YES. True? Absolutely not.

As I relaxed and began to accept my bisexuality, I began remembering things. For instance when I was 9-10 I used to love looking at my mother's National Geographic magazines. The bare breasted native women fascinated me.

When I was 15 I had a friend over for a sleepover. Now I can recognize that she saw something in me that I didn't or wouldn't see in myself because she kissed me and we spent hours just kissing.

So what I'm trying to say I so long-windedly is that what you're feeling is perfectly normal. It's kind of like a second puberty. Just allow yourself to relax and enjoy it. :)

[arana]

Welcome to the site R. I'm sure you will meet many interesting people while you are here. Good luck to you.

[dafydd]

Hi R, coming from the other persepective, I realised I was attracted to women when I spilt red wine on this girl's cashmere sweater and she came home with me and we snogged and it was amazing. Actually there was nothing more powerful than waking up with a woman in my bed, her hair spilling across the pillow - maybe it was some primitive male hunter vibe evoked within me that saw her as a conquest, or more importantly my mate. I'd never had that with a guy, we were all part of the same tribe, brothers in arms, there was nothing gender fulfilling about sleeping with your own kind for me.
Now I am 28 and looking for more of the same, except I am butting my head up against the wall that says "I cannot fall in love with a woman." I remain addicted to men yet obsessed with women. The search continues...

D

[JoyJoyHollywood]

It's very nice to meet you. I think you'll have a wonderful time here. The people are fabulous.

[rmorti]

Ah some cool replies and nice insight, more and more will be greatly appreciated.

Its all still fresh water to me really, Im still kieeping myself open minded as again I don't know what is really going on right now. Heres a nice bit of insight into pretty much what I'm going through, maybe some opinions and anyone who relates would be cool but anyway here goes.

Had great relationships with girlfriends up to 20, strong ones, fell in love, had my heart broken the works. Then since December I started to find guys interesting to look at over girls, I'm still debating wether this is an "attraction" or just a confusion because of the phase I'm going through making it appear as something its not. I mean i've always known when a guy is good looking and has a good build, but never in any way of a sexual manner.
I get aroused by thoughts of me and girls doing stuff, and also aroused easily by straight porn, the thought of shagging the girl is a real turn on (apologise on soundig crude there) whilst gay porn or thinking of a man touching me, shagging him etc in my head doesnt do much, I've never achieved an erection and to be honest, I dont really get "off" on masterbating over the thoughts either.
So really the only thing that is my preference is looking at men, they "catch my eye" more then girls really. Im pretty sure if I do decide to delve into the land of men that I dont want to have anyhting in my bum, and to be honest I dont know if I could go down on a guy, but hey WOn't know till im there in the moment and tried it etc.
So yeah basically Im sure there is some form of bisexuality in me, Im just struggling to reach a conclusion as even sometimes I dont wnna sleep with a girl etc, its always changing really and I just try not to think about it, as when I do, it seems to get really out of hand.
I'm a man who does not believe in labels, and sexuality can change many times for a person, some it does not but hey, they miss out as you only live once, may experience the best of both worlds if you can.
This kind of scenario sound famaliar to anyone else? anyone relate to it?
look forward to hearing from you all :)

[dafydd]

So really the only thing that is my preference is looking at men, they "catch my eye" more then girls really. Im pretty sure if I do decide to delve into the land of men that I dont want to have anyhting in my bum, and to be honest I dont know if I could go down on a guy, but hey WOn't know till im there in the moment and tried it etc.


Maybe you look at men like works of art. Women might fulfill your sexual needs, but men might satisfy your aesthetics.
Have you ever seen a guy that was so beautiful you just couldn't stand it?

D :bipride:

[rmorti]

Im not really sure, but If I see a guy at the right angle He can look just damn amazing. Two examples of this is Daniel craig, from certain angles in layer cake just looked...mint! and The program T4, their host with the long hair, indie looking guy, was with lilly allen in NY and from paticular angles he looked ace too, thats about as crazy as it gets really. REst is more, "oh hes a good looking geezer/has a good build" That any help?

[jamiehue]

Im not really sure, but If I see a guy at the right angle He can look just damn amazing. Two examples of this is Daniel craig, from certain angles in layer cake just looked...mint! and The program T4, their host with the long hair, indie looking guy, was with lilly allen in NY and from paticular angles he looked ace too, thats about as crazy as it gets really. REst is more, "oh hes a good looking geezer/has a good build" That any help?
Daniel Craig..coworker said she preferred pierce bronson i went off and said some words i like to take back...on second thought she can have him Ill take the real bond ooh baby!!!