CSWolffe
Jun 30, 2007, 11:31 AM
So, here we are, a married couple looking for a hookup in Salt Lake city. yes, I meant to write city with a lower case 'c'. there is not much action out here. And we are not looking for much, were not swingers, we dont want a one night stand, but someone we can be friends with outside of the bedroom.
But I am not writing thiis thread to find a hook up, I figure I have enough profiles posted around to get at least a little action. Or so I thought.
No, Im here to share a story of my search, and see if anyone elese has had similar experiences or advice.
i met a girl on a singles site, where my prorile makes it clear I am married and looking for another lady to join us(me and my BiCurious wife-she wants me to do the finding). she initiated contact, and last sunday we chated for two hours. she is a bigger girl(wich I like), and kinda shy. Not a lot of experience, which is good, as I do not want to be intimidated. she is perfect for us, and I really like her. She even sent some xxx pics, and her phone number(we did speak, briefly). tuesday we chatted briefly again, she did not have a lot of time. but she had to leave just as we started playing around with cybersex(ive never tried it before). all week, I looked forward to coming home and checking to see if she was online. no luck. then i had a crappy day, and had a few shots of Chivas before dinner. can you say de-inhibiter? knew you could. So, i was eager, and over anxious, and sent her an email telling her how much I liked her, and wanted to get to know her better, and she nedded to be more avialable online. I told her i did not want to be that creepy buy who lurks online stalking her, so I was not going to email her every day looking for her. she needed to initiate contact.
I think I may have scared her off. I dont remember Exactly what I wrote, but it was definately too early in the relationship to send that kinda post. I should have been patient. She left for Moab on friday, wont be back 'till sunday, late, and probably wont even get my email untill monday or tuesday. So I have to wait all weekend before I know if I screwed up. I should have just sent a text on friday telling her to have a safe trip. would have had a much better result. oh, well, hindsight and all that.
Am I overanyzing all this? Has anyone else projected thier hopes/fantasies/eagerness onto a new relationship and choked it off too early?
share some stories....
But I am not writing thiis thread to find a hook up, I figure I have enough profiles posted around to get at least a little action. Or so I thought.
No, Im here to share a story of my search, and see if anyone elese has had similar experiences or advice.
i met a girl on a singles site, where my prorile makes it clear I am married and looking for another lady to join us(me and my BiCurious wife-she wants me to do the finding). she initiated contact, and last sunday we chated for two hours. she is a bigger girl(wich I like), and kinda shy. Not a lot of experience, which is good, as I do not want to be intimidated. she is perfect for us, and I really like her. She even sent some xxx pics, and her phone number(we did speak, briefly). tuesday we chatted briefly again, she did not have a lot of time. but she had to leave just as we started playing around with cybersex(ive never tried it before). all week, I looked forward to coming home and checking to see if she was online. no luck. then i had a crappy day, and had a few shots of Chivas before dinner. can you say de-inhibiter? knew you could. So, i was eager, and over anxious, and sent her an email telling her how much I liked her, and wanted to get to know her better, and she nedded to be more avialable online. I told her i did not want to be that creepy buy who lurks online stalking her, so I was not going to email her every day looking for her. she needed to initiate contact.
I think I may have scared her off. I dont remember Exactly what I wrote, but it was definately too early in the relationship to send that kinda post. I should have been patient. She left for Moab on friday, wont be back 'till sunday, late, and probably wont even get my email untill monday or tuesday. So I have to wait all weekend before I know if I screwed up. I should have just sent a text on friday telling her to have a safe trip. would have had a much better result. oh, well, hindsight and all that.
Am I overanyzing all this? Has anyone else projected thier hopes/fantasies/eagerness onto a new relationship and choked it off too early?
share some stories....