The Dream

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I woke having a fantasy dream this morning. In this dream I was being spooned in a mans arms whilst becoming awake. I was loving the feeling/s of it. Felt a deep warmth from it physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally. Yes, I have a wife. I though as is said can "play for both teams". It has been quite a while since I've been with a man.

So yeah that dream comes "my way" every so often of a morning as I jostle awake. Then, reality gradually creeps in. No, it isn't a case of I don't love my wife, or don't desire her. I do love & desire her. She's a lovely being in all the ways she needs to be. She though has no desire to assist in the reality of things. I will not and do not want to change that in her.

Note: She does not mind if I have a guy outside of our marriage. We're open in that regard. We don't "cheat" though and prefer others not to. We define cheating as lying or deceiving someone you love to be with another. To us that hurts people and we feel it wrong.

Still though here I am feeling that dream. *sighs* Then, waking to the reality. It can be disappointing, frustrating. Maybe some day society will agree with me. We can all have a husband and wife if we choose, or a husband, or wife. Who we love and enjoy sex with ought not be an issue of hate, fear, prohibition simply because well some doctrine born of ignorance says so.

[Jazminedress]

She's a lovely being in all the ways she needs to be.

Pretty much whats important

[KDaddy23]

Some couples find a way to expand their family in these ways because they don't want to wait for a day that they might not ever see waiting on society to get its head out of its ass about what being married means. As many tend to say, it's not cheating when permission is given and both are free to act as they may and if they need to. I enjoyed being in an open and poly relationship for well over 20 years and my only complaint was that I wasn't allowed to have a bi boyfriend to join our expanded family. That didn't mean that I couldn't get with men when the opportunities presented themselves, though.

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As many tend to say, it's not cheating when permission is given and both are free to act as they may and if they need to.

Yes. Me and she are open that way. Presently, not finding a "Mr. Right" to get "hooked" up with. She's seeing a fellow. He offers her a little pain with pleasure, nothing dire. I cannot offer that. Touch her she bruises just because she's that way. I "play" just a smidgen "rough" and sometimes forget to "not crush the flowers". So, it's a self trust issue for me. Glad she found someone to do that for her.

Meanwhile a little blah for not having a good bud for me to enjoy. Met someone through this site years back. We've kind of drifted as life is won't to do with folks. He found a man closer to himself. I'm glad he did and happy for him, still love him but as said we're both going on in life. This is why this particular dream is such a bittersweet for me. Oh it's so good and yummy but damn it, ... it's not there. *chuckles & smh, sighing*

Nota Bene: "Mr. Right" doesn't necessarily mean the stereotypical macho hetero / homosexual acting man. I'm open to "butterflies".

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Pretty much whats important

She's a cutie. I think so and as is evidenced a few others might too. *chuckles* She is also a sweet heart soul. For me it's about the whole person, not simply the body, or the mind, or what have you. She would tell you I'm an ass man. Yes, sometimes I have an urge for a piece, can admit it. Still I rather have the whole person.

Lots can divorce sex from love or vise versa. I can to some degree. It's not what I prefer though. Need "something" there to draw me to a person other than "oh damn that looks like a good romp." Don't get me wrong I'm as much man as the next when I get too wound up, and yes a good lay looks like a good lay. Yet, I need more most of the time than just tossing my spaghetti on the wall.

Summing, I'm just way too balanced. Everything in moderation, even moderation. I've fussed about this to her about me. "I'm just bland." She says otherwise. I dunno. *shrugs*

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Okay reckon, I ought to quit reaching out altogether. Seems doing so was met with similar results in a few places, or rather kind of lacking. Oh well, t'is life.