Looking for my first oral experience...need help!

[explorbi4]

I'm a MWM, recently out to my wife and have permission to explore my fantasy of sucking another man's cock and him sucking mine. I need advice on two things:
One, where to find a guy. I've placed ads on CL, joined Grindr, posted an ad on AFF. CL and Grindr hit a lot of responses but the thing that worried me was that midst of them wanted to do it right away. I would love to find a married guy that understands safety, discretion and patience issues but not sure where to look.
Two, I'm concerned about safety, even with oral sex. I know the risks are much less but are there just the same. I love my wife and kids and I don't want to jeopardize their health our mine. What do any members think about using condoms for oral sex, at least until I get to know the other guy little better?

[JUSTLUVIN]

Although CL may have been successful for some, it is rather dangerous. Basically because there is not much accountability. You may also want to try silverdaddies. I would suggest whomever you find to first exchange face pics, then meet somewhere neutral such as a coffee shop and talk. Then if interested, find a neutral place to meet like a steam room. Most guys are usually safe I suppose but for safety's sake, you may want to do this. Inviting him to your place could mean someone is scouting out your place later to rob. I have some friends where that happened. Going to his place could mean even worse. These of course are worst case scenarios but just mentioning ways to play it safe

[pole_smoker]

Why does the other guy have to be married? Why do you need him to be discreet? You're out to your wife, and on hook up sites.

Why does it disturb you that the men who you meet on hook up sites and via hook up phone apps want to meet right away? That's what those sites and apps are designed for. :bigrin:

Oral sex in general is safer sex. Yes you can get other STDs from it but your chances of getting HIV are very, very low and you or he would have to have open bleeding wounds in your mouth and on your genitals.

Keep trying the sites but also go to your local LGBT bar and meet men in person that way.

[bikurinpa]

I am pretty much in same boat as u but not out to my wife, and trying to find someone on these sites is tough, for so many only get on here and want to chat only when they horny. I had very little luck from these sites, maybe it is just my area here that seem to b the most B/S'ers, CL here is definitely a waste for here they want "for NOW " or a specific time! just quick blo n goes. I think ur best luck is in person with a friend and hope by just dumb luck a conversation goes in that direction!

[Marriedbi58]

I too am on a few sites and Silverdaddies seems to get me the most action. Just spell out your guidelines and expectations.
some kind of picture also helps. Doesn't have to be face. Meet in neutral place and talk.

[dramlick]

I agree that I have had the best long run success with Silverdaddies. I have also used Squirt and Manhunt with some success.

[Hypersexual11]

The responses from any site, free or pay, depends completely on your ad and how it is presented. My advise is to put out a very descriptive list of what you are looking for. Make a note asking people to not respond unless they meet this criteria. When you get responses that are frustrating, simply delete them. You have to wade thru the crap to get to the cream. My current suck bud was found on craigslist. Once I decided to find one, it took about 2 months or so and countless e-mails to liars. Worth the time. Good luck.

[NakedInSeattle]

SilverDaddies for sure! Good luck.

[EmailOnly]

Try seduction... That was my first introduction into M/M sex.
Watch oral porn together.. If his cock gets hard and you can see the outline of it.. I mean he doesn't try to hide it.. Then you have found a willing partner..

"Ever wonder what it would be like?"

Stretch out your legs.. let him see you rubbing your balls..

Smile...... Universal sign of agreement... Smile.. moving your hand to his balls.. Belt undone.. fly open.. cock and balls free... bend down and suck it...................

The secret is to stop before he cums ... and pull your cock out and place his hand there.. then moving so he can suck your cock....

Once the man had me that hot.. I couldn't stop.. Suck-it he said..... and I did....

[hikerinthebuff]

Try seduction... That was my first introduction into M/M sex.
Watch oral porn together.. If his cock gets hard and you can see the outline of it.. I mean he doesn't try to hide it.. Then you have found a willing partner..

"Ever wonder what it would be like?"

Stretch out your legs.. let him see you rubbing your balls..

Smile...... Universal sign of agreement... Smile.. moving your hand to his balls.. Belt undone.. fly open.. cock and balls free... bend down and suck it...................

The secret is to stop before he cums ... and pull your cock out and place his hand there.. then moving so he can suck your cock....

Once the man had me that hot.. I couldn't stop.. Suck-it he said..... and I did....

Masterful lesson pal, that's the way it sould come. But me, I haven't yet had that chance, to find someday somebody in the yard. Though, I found out, in a website, a few men who liked to play at first ride. Well, we talked thrugh some messages clear and plane and when we met we sunk straightaway into task .
It has to be like a dog, patient and stubborn to get the bone in your mouth.

[cbj4162]

I'm a MWM, recently out to my wife and have permission to explore my fantasy of sucking another man's cock and him sucking mine. I need advice on two things:
One, where to find a guy. I've placed ads on CL, joined Grindr, posted an ad on AFF. CL and Grindr hit a lot of responses but the thing that worried me was that midst of them wanted to do it right away. I would love to find a married guy that understands safety, discretion and patience issues but not sure where to look.
Two, I'm concerned about safety, even with oral sex. I know the risks are much less but are there just the same. I love my wife and kids and I don't want to jeopardize their health our mine. What do any members think about using condoms for oral sex, at least until I get to know the other guy little better?

........ Take your time, no hurry. In my experience, if you take your time, feel comfortable with the person, then the experience is real good. Make sure you are both
on the same page etc.... When the chemistry and situation is good the experience is soooooo Good!! :) I love it!!

[bidman]

I totally understand your issue and as a mwm who is also looking. It is hard to find someone discreet in my area too that is not looking for the quick fix or hookup. I too need discretion and even if you are out to your wife, you have other things to consider like family, friends, or workers finding out and devestating your life as well as those you care about. I have not had great success on CL or someother sites just based on that fact and STD's are an issue where I live in south fla. I agree with most I have met some and they turn out to be liars or flakes, it is a sorting out process. Hold to your standards dont make exceptions and hopefully it will work out.....