Oral sex...giving and receiving [Archive]

shaver6

Sep 18, 2010, 5:35 PM

I'm a bisexual male who happens to LOVE oral sex...:tongue:.both giving and receiving..and of course...."69" However...the last couple years I have been meeting guys...who love to give oral to another guy, but DO NOT want their cock sucked. I had one case, where a guy wanted to receive anal...and wanted to give me oral....but did not want me to suck his cock...or even touch it. What the hell is up with these guys???

Now I can see a guy...or girl....NOT wanting to GIVE oral to a guy...maybe they think its "dirty" or "nasty"...or in the case of a guy....that if he does that..it makes him a "fag" But its beyond me...while someone would refuse to have oral performed on them.

I have a problem with this...because I love oral soooo much....and giving it to another guy ...is a major part of the enjoyment of having sex with him. So..I just wondered how may others have run into this situation???

fredtyg

Sep 18, 2010, 6:07 PM

Are these guys your age or older? If so, I suspect they might be afflicted with erectile dysfunction (you know, one of those Viagra guys) and might be sensitive about having a hard time getting a hard on.

I'm one of those Viagra guys myself and advertise myself as pretty much a strict bottom. I don't know that I'd refuse to let a guy touch my cock, though, and last time I was with a guy I managed to get it up for him to suck on.

Rather strange that so many of the guys you meet refuse it, though. The only other thing I can think of is the guys know they have some venereal disease or are HIV+ and are nice enough to not want to spread it.

bisexual Bill

Sep 18, 2010, 8:31 PM

It's just their personal preference for what they're not into doing during sex.

I have times when I don't want to suck cock at all. So I just get sucked.

I've been with men who are only into getting fucked.

They prefer having someone finger, rim, or fuck their ass and don't want their cock sucked or stroked at all.

I don't like anything up my ass and that includes fingers, tongues, dildos and other toys, and cocks. I'm not too crazy into giving anal sex either but I do it safe with a partner.

If you want to suck cock with a guy you're hooking up with in your ad just say how you are versatile for oral sex. Say how you expect or want the same. Ask them if they are into giving and getting oral sex and don't have sex with the guys who say they just want to suck and not do anything else.

With women I just like to fuck pussy and I'm not into giving or getting oral sex. I've been with some women who are the same way and they just like to get fucked.

terri

Sep 18, 2010, 10:08 PM

i like this topic. its something that has been pawing at my door for a year or more. for me the excitement of the pre-orgasmic part of an sexual encounter is better than the short time of an orgasm.( hope that makes sence). that is , i think, why i prefer to give oral to a man more than to recieve it from him. keep in mind , if you will, that i am not an experienced man when it comes down to having bisexual relations.
like i said , i like this topic and will probably be back for more.

abstruse_ric

Sep 19, 2010, 12:11 AM

The only other thing I can think of is the guys know they have some venereal disease or are HIV+ and are nice enough to not want to spread it.

I have to wonder about those guys who sit in an adult bookstore sucking cock after cock.

Cherokee_Mountaincat

Sep 19, 2010, 4:35 AM

Ahhhh, a subject close to my heart. About a foot in fact...:bigrin::rolleyes:
I am Verrry oral! I get so aroused and euphoric from sucking that I have many times cheated myself out of some good lovin'. And the problem is, I'm good at it. My former best friend could have attested to this for me...lol
There is just something so sensual about having that hard cock in my mouth and feeling it glide in and out between my lips that sets my whole being on fire! My ex husband hated oral, and in all of the 30 years we were married he let me blow him exactly Three times...:( He said only whores sucked cock, and he didnt want a wife that was a whore. :rolleyes:
Well, if that makes me a whore, then so be it...lol
Oral lovin Cat

Eunic

Sep 19, 2010, 5:53 AM

A couple of "Whores" here also. ;)

justcurious4me

Sep 19, 2010, 9:59 AM

Wow... Awesome topic to discuss... Gotta love it!!! Anyway, as far as I am concerned, I have never had the pleasure of giving a blow job yet or getting one from another man; however, as far as from the women... Well, my wife is not into that much at all... And when I do get her to partake, it's usually a couple of minutes, then ACKKKK!!!! Hair ball (not that I have a lot of hair down there, just her gag reflex)!!! Then on to the intercourse... She doesn't even like me going down on her and DAMN, I used to be awesome at that!!! Loved it dearly too...

As far as actually bringing me off from oral sex (without my intervention... j/o assistance)... Well, the last time that has happened for me was over 18 years ago... Something about me that just has a problem with hitting that final moment... Takes a LONG time... Maybe it was inexperience on the giver's part or maybe it was me...

I like to think of it as a challenge to the giver to see if they could do it (there ya go Cat!!! Hehehehe)... Last time it did happen, I was clawing at the walls, screaming like mad, and holding on for dear life... It was that good!!!

Realist

Sep 19, 2010, 10:17 AM

It's almost impossible for me to have an orgasm, if I think my partner's uncomfortable, not really into it, or if there are distractions.

I never ASK a lover to go down on me, because I want them to be spontaneous about it. To me, it's only desirable if they're craving to do it.......feeling compelled to do it. When I go down on a lover of either gender, that's the way I feel.

Even then, it takes a certain technique and finesse, to achieve the goal. But, when everything is in place, your description of how it feels to cum like that is very accurate!

The only thing that compares to that pleasure is being able to return the favor.

My first ever orgasm was generated orally, so, for me it, was one of the first sexual pleasures I was given. Needless to say, that desire will be with me always.

cornholejoe

Sep 19, 2010, 11:57 AM

when i give it its in a 69 never met anyone who did not like there cock sucked

loveinit

Sep 19, 2010, 12:10 PM

shaver6

Sep 19, 2010, 1:13 PM

It looks like my thread has generated quite a bit of interest..:) A couple years ago, I met a Bi guy, and his big thing was receiving anal. He also like to give oral. However...he wouldn't let me give him oral...his reason was:
"I only receive oral from my wife...that's just for her" As much as I like to give oral...needless to say I was disappointed. More then likely, his wife doesn't give that great of a blow job...and he might be surprised to find out what it feels like from an expert on the subject...LOL...:tongue:

Cherokee_Mountaincat

Sep 19, 2010, 1:44 PM

*Evil Cat chuckle* Sweet Will, I have been told before that a lover couldnt be brought off by just oral plreasures. For some reason he just couldnt let himself relax enough, or get into it enough to let himself let go. And because he had never found a lover who was so into it before. He had had women who seem like they are on a time limit for sucking, and only gave for like a 5 minute time period, and consisted of overly sloppy, wet lickings...
Well, he felt that way until he encountered someone with a mouth like a milking machine....LMAO
And I Likes challenges. :bigrin:;):tongue::cool:
Bad Cat

foreverbi

Sep 20, 2010, 4:15 PM

I guess I'm selfish, because when I have the rare opportunity to suck a dick I do NOT expect nor do I want the guy to return the favor.

All I ask is from him to give me a mouthful of cum to savor & swallow.

I LOVE CUM, ALL CUM;):2cents:

jimisbi

Sep 25, 2010, 11:00 AM

Sucking cock and receiving anal is my personal preference; it has nothing to do with erectile dysfunction or STIs. I am a bottom only when I'm with a guy. I get my pleasure from taking a cock in me, whether it be in my mouth or anally and preferably both but always oral before anal and never the other way around. I will let a guy suck my cock, but I don't derive any pleasure from it.

luv2play8899

Oct 5, 2010, 11:25 PM

I love having my cock sucked...by a girl or a guy.
I don't get the resistance by some to this pleasure.
Unloading in a hot mouth is more then fun. :)

Plumhead2

Oct 6, 2010, 8:39 AM

I used to like receiving oral. But a few years ago, I was with a woman who was obsessed with sucking cock. When she wanted it she wanted it NOW. And she always wanted it. One time we were at a restaurant and she slid under the table and sucked me off. Luckily she finished before the waiter returned with our food. I was scared and embarrassed . . . and I felt used. Since that time, I have not been able to cum when my cock is sucked. I still love giving oral, and hopefully some day I will be able to work through the issue and be able to enjoy cumming through oral sex.

tequilafan

Oct 8, 2010, 2:01 PM

Might sound weird, but I would rather suck a cock than have a guy suck me. Love a woman's mouth wrapped around my cock, but a guy doesn't really do it for me. But give me a chance to suck on that throbbing muscle and I'm all over that!!

69luvr

Oct 8, 2010, 2:58 PM

I love having my cock sucked...by a girl or a guy.
I don't get the resistance by some to this pleasure.
Unloading in a hot mouth is more then fun. :)

I agree. I especially love when either the guy or girls really shows their love of sucking.:bipride:

69luvr

Oct 8, 2010, 3:03 PM

I have to wonder about those guys who sit in an adult bookstore sucking cock after cock.

Why wonder? Just go and see for yourself. There was a great adult theater in san Jose. It was wonderful!:bipride:

xxxbody44

Oct 8, 2010, 4:22 PM

I have never been with a man who didn't want his cock sucked. I always let them suck me off.

Married men seem to be the best, they really enjoy having their cocks sucked and in most cases are only too happy to return.

I enjoy both giving and receiving. It's almost like the act is incomplete if both parties don't give and receive.

xxxbody44@yahoo.com

BiCplAz

Oct 8, 2010, 4:25 PM

Maybe I'm wierd but oral sex is the best for me. I love to lick a pussy until the other end screams and I love to suck cock and you can ask gumsuckerII if I'm not very good at it. I think you can relax more when getting a blow job and therefore have a much better and harder orgasm. When I can just lay back and let a girl or a guy suck me I cum so hard it's amazing. I love it when a guy cums hard in my mouth or, when you can find a squirter, a woman squirts in my mouth. There is nothing better than hearing the total satisfaction of the other person orgasming, I think that's a word. What I don't like is a guy who cums then is finished. So that's my :2cents:

colobicouple

Oct 8, 2010, 7:55 PM

In over 40 years of sucking cock I have found exactly three guys that did not want me to do it (my hubby isn't one of them)...lol...but its also true that oral is not everybody's "thing". As with all things sexual, we need to do what we enjoy and never anything we don't. Great post and great comments!

Sharon

torch61

Oct 16, 2010, 11:41 PM

I love sucking cock. On the submissive side and love servicing. Just want to please the guy and as a reward I get to swallow his sperm.

BJ Hunter

Oct 16, 2010, 11:59 PM

Well, I love this topic! I'm a married guy that just loves getting sucked and cum hard every time. I have yet to return the favor, but I am interested in trying it. The best senerio for my first would be to be in a MMF session, with the woman coaching me through to the creamy end. Ideally, she would be sharing the other guys cock with me. Of course I would love having her and her husband, or BF to suck me together too.

SilverFox52

Oct 17, 2010, 6:28 AM

Just to add to the mix... I enjoy the sensations of having my cock sucked, but it is rarely enough to get me off. I have something called DE (delayed ejaculation) which means it takes a lot of stimulation for me to reach orgasm. I've only met a small handful of people who were able to get me to cum by mouth alone, and it required time and patience. Even when I masturbate it takes some time to climax.

DE used to come in handy for fucking back in the day, since I could go for a longer time. However, there were times when I have "faked" an orgasm, just to get things over with. Of course, nowadays my back gives out before my dick does (ah, the joys of aging)! Using condoms is important, but I also have to factor in that it adds another layer of diminished sensitivity.

I feel bad when I sense a partner is getting tired and frustrated by not being able to make me cum. That's when I usually "lend a hand" and I end up just beating off anyway which doesn't feel like much of a compliment to the person whose been doing all the work. For me, getting a blow job feels great and is an enjoyable experience, but I can understand why some people might not put it high on their most desired list.

Realist

Oct 17, 2010, 8:58 AM

A person's desire to suck a me off, have me fuck him/her, without any desire of reciprocation is still alien to me.

I have had relationships with a couple of guys and one lady who only wanted to give, but not receive. I had to overcome the feeling that the event was only half-done......as I felt previously that I should, in the least, return the favor.

One guy explained that it was not uncommon for one to receive all of the pleasure from giving. I understood the pleasure of giving, but would not want to be the one doing all the giving, while not having an opportunity to be a receiver of the same! But, that's just my feelings.

However, after witnessing the pleasure that those folks obviously got out of whatever we did, I relented, relaxed, and enjoyed the ride!

RearWindow

Oct 17, 2010, 6:33 PM

For the most part, I prefer giving to receiving. I like to please!
The best blow job I ever got was from a transexual. She had me screaming with pleasure and floating on the ceiling for what seemed like hours!

ralphr6907

Oct 18, 2010, 9:59 AM

I have to admit, I love giving oral to a woman and getting sucked in return. But, my wife doesn't like to give me oral and refuses for me to go down on her, which I really love. She says "it's dirty" and refuses. I love feeling her squirm, moaning, and really enjoying it. I found one woman that wanted me to lick her and stick my finger in her ass, damn I loved that because I'm very anal. But that was many years ago and haven't found that since.

I haven't been with a man but seriously want to suck a man. To excite him, slowly build him up to a point where he desperately wants to finish, then let him finish and savor his cum. I just absolutely love giving pleasure orally.

Damn, I want to do that but can't find anyone interested, or at least one I can hook up with.

I would also like to find a woman to give oral to but that seems even harder to find. Most women I find want a relationship.

tequilafan

Oct 18, 2010, 10:14 AM

I love giving oral, to women or men, but very few times will I cum from oral performed on me. Because I am more of the giving type person, I wait to finish until after my lover has enjoyed their climax time. Unless my lover wants me to cum quickly, then clean up my mess, get hard and then we fuck like crazy... SLURP!!! :rolleyes: