I was a CL guy. I now use doublelist.com, or adam4adam, or sniffies. All can be very good or very bad, depending on the day and what you seek and how...
Here's a really good one... https://shevibe.com/hell-wolf-rechargeable-thrusting-vibrating-silicone-suction-cup-dildo-with-remote-by-creature-cocks/...
At least you had the experience. As for your comment about sucking cock to be a 'submissive' act, it also goes the other way as well. It can be both...
Reading these has triggered several memories. When I was about 5 or 6 a neighbor girl and I were playing whatever form of doctor and nurse we had at...